Setting goals is hard for me, it means I have to plan things ahead. This is skill I am still learning and have not yet mastered. I do know if I ever will in actuality. I’ve learned something crucial about goals and setting them. Here are three things that have stood out to me.
1-We romanticize them. I know I have done this, fantasing about how I would accomplish it or what life would look like once I did. I can tell you that achieving a goal looks entirely different then what I had imagined. Only to end up feeling disappointed or sad that it was or over.
2- Achieving a goals or goals often means working towards smaller goals first. This part is often overlooked, look at what steps or gains you need to achieve before getting to the main goal. When I started running, I had to first run a lap without stopping before I ran a half marathon.
3- Goals can change and that’s ok. Here is the truth, our lives, schedules and dynamics can change. A backburner goal can become your main goal. You may find you have more time for one thing and not another. This may mean pushing back a due date or rethinking your strategy.
And one last thought, January first is not a deadline to start . While it does fit in nicely, it being the first day of the new year and all. But it isn’t necessarily the right day for you to start. Perhaps the next month is better or even later in the year. But by setting January as this arbitrary date allows for us to push back pursuing our dreams and goals. Jumping into your goal can be scary and uncomfortable. Set a date and stick to it, then go for it but be willing to be flexible.
Maybe yesterday was bad. Perhaps today is not any better thus far.
It can be discouraging,trying and then failing. Setting goals then not doing anything to reach them. Or attempting to begin again.
It can be hard, coming back after failing. After not quite measuring up. But, anything worth going after is worth it.
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Reevaluate– what went wrong, what went right.
Restructure -your plan be realistic, set smaller goals.
Remind– the very reason why you are pursuing your dream may have been lost over time.
I did not expect it to be so hard for me to cancel my NetFlix account. I kept going back and forth on doing it. I argued with myself that the amount I was paying was not really that important. But it was a needed sacrifice.
In embracing the word Plans for this year, means I actually have to make them. To look ahead and think about how I would hope for this year to look. Part of that is to become financially stable.
My relationship with money has often been tenuous. My stubbornness in not taking heed my father attempted to teach me has affected much of my adult life. As money comes it, it goes right out.
I just haven’t thought of money as something to care for, just as something that existed to provide for me.When in truth money is a means for me to worship God. When I don’t budget or plan wisely, I am really being sinful. I’m saying I choose to not honor God with what he gives me to steward.
That my trust lies elsewhere. Dealing with money is emotional, personal and often a symptom of larger heart issues. Money is mentioned in the Bible numerous times.
This means I need to take a hard look at my finances. An unflinching look. To see where the money goes, how to make better decisions. My hope at the end of this year is to be in a better place than I am now.
By canceling my NetFlix account I am taking a step forward. I also realized that my viewing and binge watching was also eating into my reading and writing time.
Being born a born procrastinator, I am a poor planner. Throughout my life things just well happened from my lack of planning. My penchant for not doing so is often about avoiding responsibility. To not want to be disappointed when planning did not work out. While all my classmates were preparing for their futures, I put in my half hearted attempts.
Life after graduation continued to be a series of short sighted descions or whims. Despite my follies, God always had a bigger plan for me. Placing the people and places I needed in my life. Patiently loving me, guiding the course of my life.
Last week I went on a real vacation. As in leave not only town but state vacation. I was not sure how working out would pan out. But I packed my running shoes and clothes hoping to get to use them.
And was I ever glad I did! After eleven hours in the car, I needed a good run! Plus time alone. I do need my space. My plan was to see how each day would pan out. If I was able to get a workout in great! If not, great!
Thinking this way allowed me to be freed from stressing out about it. Travel plans can go awry. Unexpected delays or previously unplanned side trips can happen.
Enjoy your vacation, time with family and friends. Enjoy getting to work out or not. But do not stress out over it.