Six Healthy Life Lessons

Six years ago I off the proverbial couch and began my health journey. I’ve learned and am actually still learning so much! In honor of being a healthier person I’m writing of my top six lessons.

1- Don’t expect that losing weight will fix everything in your life.

This was a hard one for me to understand. I believed that lie of “if only”. You know the one, where we say if only_______ will solve our issues. I believed losing weight would mean an end to my singleness & lead to a more exciting life. What I didn’t understand is that getting healthy was more about taking care of my body & not a reward for doing so.

2- Everyone Has An Opinion

Seriously, everyone has one and won’t hesitate to tell you. When I began my journey, people were quick to tell me what I was doing wrong or they could never do it etc. Some of this is good advice, some of it blarney. Take all of it with a grain of salt. What worked for their third cousin won’t necessarily work for you.

3- Have Grace For Yourself

When starting something new there is excitement and we go all gung ho! My whole world became exercising twice a day six to seven days a week. For over a year I went hard with my workout routine. I believed another lie that this was the ONLY way to be. Guess what? It wasn’t sustainable and after a while I fell into a slump of not exercising. Which lead to beating myself up. I’ve learned to accept the ebbs and flows of life. I had to learn that work outs did not need to be my whole life.

4- Don’t Allow Permissiveness

On the other side of spectrum, allowing new habits to fall by the wayside can happen if allowed. I’ve been there, going from working out and then dropping off from doing anything. Something I didn’t believe would ever happen. But it did. Getting back into a workout routine was hard. I try not to allow myself to fall out of the habit by being more flexible. I work at planning the week ahead and looking at my commitments. Some weeks are more successful than others.

5- It’s Not The Food, It’s The Attitude

Often food can be demonized. One of the biggest lies out there is that there is bad food. When in reality, it’s the attitude and consumption of it. I can tend to seek out food for comfort. In fact I’m a recovering binge eater. My attitude towards keeps evolving in a good direction. I’ve come to a point with food where I’m much happier. At times I say no to the office cake and at others times no. Having a healthy attitude towards food means enjoying food but not allowing it to control me.

6- Love Your Body

Today I caught a glimpse of myself in the bathroom as I headed out to the pool. And I smiled at myself because not only did I feel good but I liked the image reflected back at me. It’s taken me a long time to get to this place. I love my body not because it’s at the “perfect ” weight, or shape. I love my body because I better understand who I am. Mind, body and spirit have learned to embrace imperfections. To love my body for what it is and for what it can do. Getting to this place has been hard. It has meant that I’ve had to let go of lifelong lessons imposed upon me throughout my life. I’ve learned to cease comparing myself to other women. By doing so this has allowed for such freedom. My body has carried me through 38 years and Lord Willing will continue for many more. Learning to love my body is one of healthiest lessons I’ve learned.

Lessons From Fairy Tales


The first week of each month I like to discuss story. What it means, why we need it, how it helps us in our lives.

Let’s talk about Fairy Tales. They are rather omnipresent are they not? Often growing up, these are the stories told at bedtime. These tales have been passed down for generations. We can thank the Grimm Brothers for collecting these tales.

These tales have continue to be relevant because as with any great literary work, they contain hard realities we all face in one way or another. The heroes in these tales overcome great odds.

Why have these stories stuck around for so long? As with any good story, they speak truth into our lives. Whether it is a fear of the greater world (Little Red Riding Hood, Hansel and Gretel). From being orphaned in a cold world (Cinderella) jealousy (Snow White), or even being used (Rumpelstiltskin).

The original tales are far more gruesome than the sanitized versions that are more familiar. It is not always about the princess being rescued. More so they are about survival. To be aware of the evils and harshness this world holds forth.

In fact the world is still a rather frightening place. In so many ways, we use story to figure out it out. To process all the bad things we see and hear on the news. We long to believe that good overcomes evil. That the bad people will be found out and suffer the consequences. And the good people will be rewarded.

In story we can correct injustice, and all the failings of the world around us. Somehow we can gain control when in truth there is very little that can be controlled. Much has changed in the world, but not our desire to attempt to control what we fear.

My favorite fairy tale growing up was Rumpelstiltskin. It was such a different tale than all the rest. In it a young girls father lies to the king that she can spin straw into gold. Which for whatever reason the king believes and forces the girl to sit in a roomful of straw to spin into gold. How can she ever get out of this? Suddenly a strange little man appears and offers to help her, for a price of course. Each time the little man helps her, the price goes up and up.

I won’t give away the ending, I suggest finding the tale on your own. What appeals to me about this tale is how she fights back. How determined she is to no longer be used and turn the tables on this strange little man. It was perhaps the first time I realized that I could fight back. That I was not as powerless as I believed. That was an amazing lesson for me.

what have you learned or taken away from fairy tales?