Lately, something has been bugging me about praying for the marriages in our churches. Not just because it is yet another reminder of my singleness. A question formed in my mind, Why aren’t singles in the church as specifically prayed for? I don’t believe that this is because we are thought of as less than marrieds. This may have more to do with the mentality towards singleness. Even from those of use in the midst of it. That somehow our lives and struggles are not as important as those who are married. Or that this state of being is more private to be prayed about so publicly.
It is of course important to pray for marriage. It is hard, challenging, full of trials and blessings. It is a beautiful example of Christ’s love for us.
But so is singleness. Being a single in the church today is more of the norm than not. A pew poll from 2012 found that this group is in fact growing. For a number of reasons people are waiting longer to get married. Or are recovering from past relationships. Or like me have never been in a relationship.
In fact most churches are having to adjust how to minister to us. (I will touch on this more on another post).
Which is why it is just as important to remember to pray for us. Singleness can be just as challenging, full of trials and blessings. Pray not only for our potential, future marriages but also for our lives right now.
The majority of us are searching for our spouse. Pray that we be discerning in pursuing a spouse . Pray for us as we try online dating and get to know new people. Pray for us as we pursue our dreams and establish ourselves. Keep in mind too not necessarily all of us are looking for that in our lives. Marriage, like college may not be for everyone.
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Screen shot of yoga workout
This past week I did not feel well. I had a cold, I finally conceded. All the symptoms were there. Sneezing, chills, general weakness.
I was in no shape to run as I wanted. However, I also did not want to lose a week of working out. Instead I chose to do Yoga. I felt it was the gentler choice for my body.
I know I am doing something good for my overall health and not missing out on staying with my workout schedule. If you are not well, doing an alternate, gentler workout can be a choice.
Please if your illness is worse than an oncoming cold, take the time off to rest. Once you are up and about go for the gentle workout as your body continues to heal. This is self care, especially with cold and flu season coming upon us. Choose the gentle route to keep that momentum going!
This is my five year plan. For most of my life I have not been a planner. I guess you can say I just let life happen. Part of it had to do with just not wanting to deal with the responsibility of life. The rest had to do with the grief I was still in the midst in from my mom’s and Pop’s deaths. I just did not see the point in planning for anything at all. For having hope in my future.
I have to thank Jon Acuff for starting the 30 Day Hustle group on Facebook, one of the members issued a challenge to post your goals for the next five years. Which I accepted.
For that I have paid a heavy price. Most of my adult life has been harder simply because of my lack of goals and planning. College was a haphazard mess, not understanding what it is I even wanted to do. Often hindered by my poor financial decisions. Some of which I am still dealing with today.
In writing my first novel I learned the important lesson of planning. I had preferred to just “pants” it as we say in the writing world. In rewriting the manuscript (TWICE!), I learned the importance of planning. To have goals to strive towards. Today I refer to myself as a “plantser”. Someone who plans out my stories but allowing room for the story to speak to me. My outlines leave room for the unexpected.
I had reached a point in my life where I desired to even have goals. Drifting in my life was no longer desirable. I wanted more.
It helped to have encouragers alongside me. Wendy, you are so much the reason I am where I am today dear friend!. As my career as a Writer begins to take off, I realized the need to have a vision for the next five years of my life. Hence the list up top.
It’s far from a comprehensive list. More of an outline really. It will most likely change as I continue to grow. I once feared making plans because what would happen when they fell apart? That may happen or my goals met in a different way. I once asked a friend, would she be open to achieving her goals if the how changed? That is where flexibility comes in.
I need to open to perhaps it taking less than five years or more than five years to cross these off the list. Just as I am open to my allowing my outlines to leave room for change. After all, there is my plan, then there is His plan. No matter the outcome,I have hope for my future.
How open would you be to your goals or the how changing?
The mirror is a place of complete honesty. There is no where to hide is there? It is just you, staring back at an image of yourself.
It’s up to you to choose love it. My choice to love my imperfect looking but healthy body.
Next time you find yourself before the mirror, stop. Take a real long look. Don’t think, just take it in. Acknowledge where you are, right now. Don’t tell yourself you used to look good or that you will when…
Part of a weight loss journey is loving yourself at every stage. By loving yourself, who you are right now can only help as you continue your journey to health.
Recently life has gotten complicated. Demands on my time have been needed. I am more than happy to be able to help.
However I soon found myself drained. Doing what I always end up doing, taking all of it on myself. Asking for help has been hard for me. Even as a kid, my stubbornness in this lead to frustration. I hated having to ask for help because it meant I was not able to do it on my own.
Asking for help was weak. Sadly, in some ways this is how I have often looked at prayer.
That somehow God would think me weak for praying. I had forgotten that I am renewed through prayer.
The act of prayer is seeking God. It is saying that I recognize that I am not able to do this on my own.
This is not a new lesson for me. Again and again, God has shown me the power of prayer.
But I am stubborn. Perhaps it is my Irish ancestry, but I am stubborn.
My God wants me to seek Him. He wants me to be dependent on Him.
Not because He is egotistical. But because of his love for me. He can take on all my burdens. That is the truth. He can take it ALL on!
Not just a specific one or some of them. But Every. Single. One.
That is what I had forgotten. It is in fact weakness to not seek Him. To not pray.
Praying does take away the problems we face. It does help to handle them, to discover the strength that only God can give us. That is what is most Important.
Sleep and Rest are both important and often it is believed that they are the same thing. For years I believed that. But in thinking about it recently it hit me that they were in fact not. Getting enough sleep in important for overall health and it is a form of rest. Rest in itself is wholly different. There are many types of rest. Something I have touched on in a previous post in which I rediscovered what it means to rest.
In our day to day lives it is often go,go go until we are physically unable to go anymore. We schedule ourselves doing one task after another, going from one place to another without thinking of taking a rest from it all. When I first began working out, I went full force seven days a week, doing two a days five days a week. I did not yet understand the concept of a rest day.
I felt like I was doing something wrong when I finally did begin to take them. As if all the hard work would be undone by taking one day off. However I found that I had a better week working out when I did take them. My body needed time to rest. To repair and prepare for the coming week. These days I take two days off from working out, depending on my schedule. Find what works for you but take a rest day from working out.
Another form of rest is taking what is referred to as a mental health day Just as our bodies need to repair and prepare, so do our minds. We were made to work but to also rest, after all God rested didn’t he? Rest for me means pulling back from the world by turning off the phone. Writing, journaling and reading. Or binge watching some television in my pajama’s. Basically taking the time to reset my mind.Taking my time waking up from my slumber, having woken up naturally as opposed to an alarm clock.
Reality is, we need to pull back from things. To sit and just be in order to not get worn down. We are not made to constantly be on the go. We are made stronger after times of rest. Our bodies and minds are better prepared to face what lies ahead.
However rest looks to you, I encourage you to be intentional about taking it. It sounds funny but schedule a day or even days of rest. Write in your calendar and do it. Do whatever you need to do in order to be the best version of you. Both physical and mental rest is important on your health journey.
What does rest look like to you? How do you recharge when you feel depleted?
I am tired
He is not
I am drained
He is not
I am fed up, angry, confused
He is not
I push Him aside
He remains by my side
Steadfast ,as I am not
In Him I let go
In Him I am freed
In Him I am renewed